Don't make marriage a competition.

Don't make your marriage a competition, there is nothing that threatens the security of a wife than the thought of another woman competing for the attention and affection of her husband. Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting. Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading. What makes Marriage flourishes is when the couple work together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score or making quarrels at every little wrongs good marriages don't just happen, just like no marriage is built from heaven rather they are a product of hard work and commitment just like how successful my own parents marriage has being. You are a product of what your children think on the opinions on love, commitment, and marriage in general. Based on that it gives them clear opinions on the successful relationship you have with their mother.

To Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.

When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything except God, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife hungers for. Just like a story I read on how a young boy was asked to choose between his mother, father and children; the young man ended up picking his wife reasons was that the others will go finding their own life's needs why he will only remain with his wife. Eventually that's the truth.

A successful marriage doesn't require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love and God at the center of it all.

Always pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. Don’t wait until there is a problem. Don’t wait until there is an affair. Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and cover your marriage with the fence of prayer.

The people you surround yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely. Create a nice circle of influence in your marriage

Only one person cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage. Don't take your spouse for granted. Don't take advantage of your spouse's meekness and goodness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation. Don't misuse or abuse your spouse's trust. You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.

Avoid wrong marital advice from single people. Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials.

And to you Dear wife, Don't underestimate the power of the tongue on your marriage. The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up. Don't let the Devil use your tongue to kill your spouse's image, self-confidence and aspirations. Let God use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless and praise your spouse.

Lastly, avoid divorce, don't make marriage a competitive game

God bless your home.